Trapped by Love: How My Fiancé’s Adult Daughter Is Tearing Us Apart

I am now engaged to my fiancé, but I am seriously considering leaving him because I hate his daughter. She’s nearly 30 and refuses to move out, is a messy slob, and violates our boundaries as a couple, yet my fiancé does nothing to address her behavior. Though I remain cordial to her, I do not feel obligated to bond with her or establish a deeper connection (her own biological mother is largely absent and has admitted she never really wanted children).

While I do love him very much, I’m willing to let him go so as not to rupture his relationship with his child. I am ambivalent about marrying him and fulfilling the stereotypical ‘evil stepmother’ role.

If I do, indeed, leave him, I will NEVER date a man with children (of any age) again. I would advise anyone that entering a relationship with someone who has children can be the equivalent of reluctantly signing a contract, and it takes great fortitude, restraint, and patience to deal with a child who is not yours.